Dating after divorce can seem scary

Not only are you worried about being hurt again, but you’ve also got to steer completely new worlds and communication styles.

As scary as dating after divorce may sound, you’re also kind of excited about first kisses and butterflies in your stomach. Right?

After the stress of going through a divorce, it might be a bit difficult to think about dating again. Even if you know your marriage is truly over, you still need to give yourself some time and space. But once ready, there are a lot of great benefits to dating later in life. Your life is more together and established, and you probably know more about what you want. So take your time!

The right time to start dating after divorce is when you feel healed from what you’ve been through and start feeling curious about what it would be like to be with someone new. You’ll know when you are.

Feel free to decide what you want in a man, write them down. Yes! You can stick into details, think about physical characteristics, tall, fit, handsome, what are his interests? But most important is to think about his personality and qualities.

Keep in mind that before you can feel attractive and appealing to someone else, you’ve got to feel that way about yourself. Love Yourself! Surround yourself with positive people and friends who tell you how fabulous you are. Practice self-care, change your style of clothes, or change your hair color if that makes you feel happy and satisfied. Even doing small things for yourself can help boost your self-esteem.

Once you shift your thinking from focusing on all the pain you’ve gone through, you should start by seeing opportunities to meet people every day, and encourage yourself to start talking and dating someone special.

Have you tried online dating?

Some apps help you find your perfect match and let you specify exactly what you’re looking for in a man; you can try Inner Circle, Bumble and Coffee Meets Bagel apps. Just pick one and let online dating run your life!

Whether you meet someone online, or in a coffee shop, It’s perfectly natural for you to be nervous, but if you focus on just having fun and not trying to find Mr. Right, you’ll have a better time. Just set reasonable expectations you don’t have to enter into a date assuming you’ll get married you can look at it as an experience to learn more about yourself and the new life you’re creating for yourself.

Once you find a man that you enjoy spending time with, make sure you’re giving as much as you’re getting so that he wants to be with you.

And the most important thing is to find someone who shares your values, and who will like you for who you are.