Who’s Gonna Win the Battle?

As far as I was concerned about this topic, I could not find the most appropriate way to start writing it, and I could not even find the right title for it. So I thought this title might be the best: “Who’s Gonna Win the Battle?”

Yes, it is a battle! And usually, there are winners. But in this case, it is a loose, loose situation for both parties.

Allow me to elaborate more, like a new toy we enjoy playing with and let no one touching it. The same happens between parents, I mean between the father and the mother of the child, they compete on the same toy (the child), not knowing that this toy may crash if the two keeps pushing hard.

Who’s gonna bring more gifts for the child?

Who’s gonna spend more money on gifts?

Even though the mom and dad are now divorced, their goal should be to succeed in raising happy, healthy, and well-adjusted children.

This is what I know.

Unfortunately, many divorced parents got the desire to win as the best parent instead of focusing on raising out good humans.

Who doesn’t enjoy the satisfaction of knowing that he or she gave a gift that made a child’s special day?

Who doesn’t take pride in knowing they are qualified and successful as a parent?

But do you think that only gifts and presence matter? of course not!

Did you know that most of the kids, who get everything they want, believe they can have everything they want? This attitude will lead to an unhealthy lifestyle.

Did you know that when too many toys are introduced into a child’s life, their attention measure will begin to suffer? most of them will rarely learn to fully appreciate the toy in front of them when many options are remaining on the shelf behind them.

Did you know that when kids have too many toys, most of them will naturally take less care of them? They will not learn to value them if there is always a replacement ready at hand.

Are we assuming that a child’s love can be bought with stuff?

Count me in on all of the above! I’m currently living in this situation.

The problem and the question are, will these kids turn out to be the kind of people we want them to be? Will they become selfish, people who associate love with whatever money can buy?

Although kids do love stuff, I’ve discovered that what a child wants most of all are our time and attention. Time and attention are free, but they do start to build self-confidence and a solid bond between parent and child.

Just keep in mind that parenting is hard, but you have already won the best prize once called “mom” or “dad!” No need to drive yourself crazy by trying to prove to everyone how incredible and awesome you are! Your child will figure out, on his own, Just be yourself!